Posted in Personal Development

My No Buy Rules!

So last week I talked about starting braving a no buy… if you want to know more about this you can read my original post here. It’s now time to delve more deeply into my no buy rules!

Well today we officially hit September, this marks the start of my no buy. To make this a successful mission I have had to identify a set of rules. Basically as I said before ‘no buy’ doesn’t mean buy absolutely nothing. If you are thinking of doing a no buy remember set rules that work for you. Somebody else’s might not work. Look at your life and how you can make cuts for the better, don’t make yourself totally miserable.

So here are the rules I’ve set myself…

1. No clothes shopping. At all. Guys… I don’t need more clothes. Seriously… I might lust after more but I need to appreciate the things I have already. I’ve decided I will do a blog post each month called ‘learning to love what I have’ in which I will share with you what I’ve been up to and what outfits I put together.

2. No new make up. Identify my essential make up kit and only buy replacements of those things when they run out. This will be foundation, concealer, touché eclat, mascara, blusher. I would add highlighter but I have 5 right now. Enough said. Let’s not go there about lipstick/gloss.

3. No new beauty treatments. Now then this is where a lot of my hard earned cash goes… I am a sucker for being pampered. Giving this up would make me miserable and it’s actually just a part of my routine/life. I have a facial every 3 weeks, nail appointment every 2, intimate wax every 3 weeks and a monthly massage. Yikes! I know… but I would happily add more. So no more beauty appointments beyond my regular.

4. No overbuying on every day consumables. This is things like shower gel, facial wash, bubble bath, shampoo and conditioner. I can not buy these until I have used up what I have. So for example I have a lot of shower gels right now including all the samples I’ve acquired. I love going to lush, I love shopping online for pampering at home products so this one could be challenging. Cleaning products would also come in here… but they aren’t really an issue ha ha!

5. No new books. Ahh man, I love books! But I already have so many. Yup you guessed it that’s many I’ve not read. Also I need to cancel audible as I’m just not using it these days yet I’m paying and racking up credits.

6. No new stationary. Notebooks, cute pens, jazzy post it’s, every type of journal under the sun… I have an issue with stationary… it’s just so pretty these days! so no more.

7. No homeware. Buying homeware isnt a big issue to be honest… but it could be if I’m banned from buying everything else ha ha! So on the list it goes!

What else?

Okay so apart from the obvious essential bills, grocery shopping and fuel what else have I not mentioned?

Dining out. I don’t feel this needs to go on my list as we don’t go out all that much as I work evenings. After 4 hours cheerleading on Saturdays I am goosed ha ha! We do go out obviously but not every week so I don’t feel this needs to be addressed on my no buy.

Entertainment. Again no need to be added. I love the theatre so occasionally I treat myself to going there. The odd concert, cinema and day out I enjoy but in all honestly I’m so busy with my dance school this isn’t an area of overspending concern.

Holidays. Want to really know where a lot of my money goes? Right here in this category. Do I intend to cut down? Absolutely not… life is for living and seeing the world will never be a waste of money in my eyes. I have three holidays planned next year though and will try to book no more. hmmm!

Okay so I think that pretty much completes my no buy rules torture list, ha ha! But seriously this may not look challenging to some but this will be for me. Check back in with me at the beginning of each month and I will share an update of how it’s all going. Finally I promise to be absolutely honest if I have any hiccups.

Can you think of any catergories I’ve missed? Anyone else survived a no buy? Or anyone want to join me?!

Happy September guys, make it a great one!

Rachael 🙂 x

Posted in Personal Development

Braving a No Buy…

Yep… I’m considering braving a no buy. I can hear my friends laughing as they read this! But one does love a good challenge. The term ‘No Buy’ has crossed my path several times in 2019. If you’ve been following my blog you will know I briefly talked about my consumerism habits and was wanting to become a more mindful shopper. Then in June I talked about how I’m not doing enough for the planet and talked about my eco friendly mission.

What’s a no buy?

Well the name is a tad misleading as of course it’s virtually impossible to stop buying everything. However it is possible to not buy new unnecessary items and make use of what you have. Upon joining this movement you determine your own rules. Popular ones include you may only replace essential items once they have run out. Now here’s the grey area… you determine what’s essential. So for example I would deem certain items of make up essential to my life. I’m not about to forgo mascara for example other people might but that is not for me!

Why do a no buy?

Good question… am I insane? Ha ha! Okay so after moving house last year I realised how much I actually overbuy. My friends have accused me of being a marketers dream in the past. However I have already made some changes to my consumerism habits since my move. I reckon that around 70% of my time on a weekly basis is taken up by my job as a dance teacher and going to the gym. Therefore I am rarely out of work out clothes. So keep purchasing items that don’t fit into this category when I already have many is a waste of money.

The financial side…

Many enter into a no buy simply because they have to. When a shopping addiction has spiralled out of control and they have racked up credit card bills to make your eyes water. This is not me thank god. I learnt my lesson with this fairly early on in life when I went to New York and blew £6000 on a credit card which consequently was a pain to pay back quickly.

My financial situation is good, I have less than £1000 debt. I have savings in the bank to which I add to monthly. The savings are mostly to go towards a house deposit with my other half when we move hopefully next year.

My reasons for a no buy…

1. I empty my bank account every month. Who can relate? Every penny is gone! I want to get to the end of the month with money in my bank (I do save but this about wanting money left in my current account)

2. I already have enough stuff!

3. I want to appreciate what I have more

4. I want to be less susceptible to advertising (ha ha!)

5. I want to have more time to be creative (this could be the time I spend mindlessly browsing online or the days I go shopping just because)

6. Boost my savings prior to moving

7. I like a challenge

A year though?

Okay guys the thought of a year is making my head fall off so I’m going to commit to six months. I will be starting next week so this is September to February. I realise Christmas is in the middle of this so that will be complete torture no doubt when I see all the pretty things I want. Also I’m going away in February so that will be a tough one too to not shop for holiday. After the six months I will reassess and see if I think a) I can do a year and b) if I think it will be beneficial. Finally my promise to you I will be honest, if I fail… I will fess up, ha!

Follow my journey…

By sharing this journey with you guys through my blog and social media it also holds me accountable. You can follow me on Instagram @thepretendgrownup Failing yourself is bad but failing in front of others is the worst. Wish me luck! I will be back next week with my list of no buy rules.

Have you completed a no buy year? Any advice is welcome!

Rachael 🙂 x

Posted in Happy Home

Mindful Buying…

Following on from a recent blog post where I mention I’ve been looking into minimalism I decided to tackle a clear out of all things beauty. This included clearing bathroom cabinets, draws and my dressing table. I’m not particularly a beauty junkie but I was actually shocked at how much I unused products I had.

I can’t blame myself for all of them though. You get bought things from time to time that you would just feel ungrateful if you immediately got rid of. You put them into a draw knowing full well you will never use them. STOP. You know what would be better than this… taking them unopened to the charity shop or giving them to a friend.

Also among the discarded was facial products, sun cream (erm when did I buy this?!) hair bobbles (I could have put my hair up in a different bobble for a year!) shampoo and conditioner (tried once and discarded as it didn’t suit my hair) body products (just not a smell I enjoy!) and make up. Loads of make – up! Now when it comes to make up I’m a simple girl. I have an active job so having a face full of it is not on my agenda so why I have bought such items as a contouring kit I will never know! (The one time I used it I looked like a panda).

I shop when I think I deserve a treat. We’ve all been there… when you feel you’ve worked non stop and you just want to get out and buy yourself something. This is the most dangerous type of shopping. This is when you buy things you DON’T need and probably won’t use. So as I stared into the pile of discared things bought mostly on such shopping trips I silently scolded myself.

I decided if it didn’t fit in the dressing table draws or one set of wicker draws it had to go. It was not an easy task as some of the stuff was expensive. Now I know what your thinking… you should have given it away. Slight problem… most the items had that little symbol on the back saying 6 months or 12 months. Now I think these labels are somewhat overlooked (don’t shout at me! I’m no beauty expert, I just use things till they are gone!) but I’m not about to start asking friends ‘hey do you want this eye shadow pallet I think I bought it in 2012… it’s never been used though so should be ok!’

The point here is definitely excessive buying but also not regularly organising my things. I vowed to start buying more mindfully. But what does this even mean? For me I decided it means when I pick up a product I ask myself these 3 questions…

1. Do I need this?

2. Do I love this?

3. Will I use it/wear it more than once?

It’s okay to buy things you don’t need if you really love them. But I concluded it’s not so great if you won’t get good use out of the item. So this is the start of my more mindful buying. I will let you know how it goes ha ha!

When did you last have a clear out? Do you buy mindfully? I must admit there is something therapeutic about clearing stuff out and everything being tidy. Maybe there is some truth in the saying ‘tidy house, tidy mind’.

Rachael x