Posted in Personal Development

You can do anything but not everything…

You can do anything but not everything… something I realised off the back of my digital detox weekend a couple of weeks back.  As an ambitious 17 year old I launched my own dance academy and have never looked back since. Driven by passion and a desire to be successful I have been teaching and running my business for almost 20 years (yikes!)

Too much self help?

For some time now I’ve been delving into the world of business, productivity and self improvement by watching YouTube videos, listening to audio books and reading. But could too much self help be a bad thing? I was starting to feel like I was under achieving and became so overwhelmed that I felt like I was going to have a breakdown.

Is one business not enough?

Not only was I single handedly running my business I was also in the process of setting up two more. A dance wear company and a fitness one both driven through the platform instagram.  Heading for burn out I had to take a step back and think what am I ultimately trying to achieve here? You can do anything but is trying to do everything a mistake?

You see everything comes at a cost and running my dance business with over 200 pupils is a mammoth task alone. I am busy enough already so why do I now feel the need to add more? Because I’m literally being brainwashed. Statements like “everyone should be making money online these days” had really got in my head and I started thinking I should be investing in a second business and making a second income.

Time for me?

This was further fuelled by analysing other peoples lives on social media! I know, what a nightmare… now I won’t go into that as that’s a whole nother blog post. But my impending breakdown was coming from a place of feeling I don’t have any time to enjoy the simple things in life. I might go to yoga, indulge in the odd massage and facial but I literally run in and out of these squeezing them into my otherwise manic day. Bottom line… I just don’t stop!

No headspace…

My mind was constantly in overdrive with all the tasks I was failing to do. If I tried to take time out feelings of guilt would creep in massively. It actually got that bad that when I was with other people I was never fully present. I might have been there in person but my mind was literally in a world of its own and I had no head space. I convinced myself I didn’t have time to just chill out at home… a day of doing nothing was just not on my agenda. Is it any wonder I was heading for burn out!! I started to wonder have I actually become addicted to being busy?!

Time to re-evaluate

Breaking point came when I realised that my situation wasn’t going to change. If I keep pursuing ideas and striving to be better I will forever be stuck in a place of not being satisfied and feeling stressed. I want to be able to look forward to a day just chilling out, being fully present with family, not feeling guilty that I’m not doing the million and one things in my head.

I am enough…

So I’ve made big changes… I’ve realised I am already killing it. I am successful and it’s time to own that.  I have created a lovely life and I should be proud of myself. I’m doing what I always set out to do and I love it as much now as when I was 17, not many people can say that. I’m where I’m suppose to be, it’s okay… I don’t need to try and take on the world. You can do anything but not everything.

Am I reaching my full potential? Maybe not… maybe I have got more to give but is it worth the stress and time? Like I said everything comes at a cost. A cost to your mental health and happiness is just not worth it. It’s time for me to just be… enjoy my life as it and start to reconnect with the things I love. Not constantly be pursuing another dream. My life is passing me by whilst I’m trying to build an even better one! Right now for the first time in ages I feel at peace with myself and it feels amazing.

Can you relate to this? Are you constantly consumed by your own thoughts and ideas and never really present? Maybe it’s time to free yourself from a tortuous cycle… remember, you are enough.

Rachael 🙂 x

Posted in Holiday Happiness

Digital Detox Weekend: Time to Unplug!

iPhones and androids… remember the days we didn’t have these? Do you remember a time before mobile phones even? leaving home and not being contactable? I do! Those were the days… ha ha! Having to be on time or literally leaving someone stood waiting for you. None of this last minute changing arrangements or running late texting. Was being uncontactable really such a bad thing? surely we were more efficient and organised?! Now in our fast paced world a digital detox is totally a thing.

Digital Detox… Back to the Days When we Were Unplugged!

I have a love hate relationship with my phone… I can’t imagine trying to live without it now but I look back to the days when I didn’t have one as simpler. Waiting for someone to call the house phone… or calling them hoping you catched them in. Knocking on for your friends… kids these days make all there arrangements via WhatsApp, snapchat or text first.

No Headspace…

I accept technology is a wonderful thing… but when I’m swamped with emails, texts, WhatsApp’s in several groups, even the pressure of social media presence (necessary I think if you have a business) it’s all pretty exhausting. Like most people these days I am never completely uncontactable. If I try to be I suddenly remember something I’ve not replied to or worry I’ve missed something important. Definitely time to unplug.

Digital Detox: Time to unplug

Digital Detox Weekend

Unplugging on a weekend away with my son in a waterfront lodge was the answer… a digital detox weekend. The game Fortnite is life it would seem for a ten year old these days so I knew he wouldn’t be happy . I let him know prior that we would be  ‘unplugging!’ No Nintendo switch for him, no going on the phone for me! He accepted it pretty easily to be fair. If I had taken it off him there we would have had serious issues but because I set my stall prior he knew where he was at.

The Perfect Setting

The Waterfront Lodge in Nuneaton turned out to be a little hidden gem. A newly built luxury Bed and Breakfast, over looking to the lake and countryside at the heart of the Midlands.

Waterside lodge

A warm welcome was granted us on our arrival late in the afternoon. I instantly loved what they had done with the lodge; beautifully finished and equipped with all the mod cons. Lights on sensors, a button to switch to bath or shower and much to my sons delight… Alexa. Neither of us had used one before so our unplugged weekend could be about to go down the plug hole ha ha!

But no… I’m pleased to report I stood my ground (mostly) he talked to Alexa only why I indulged in a bath. He quickly learned he could get on YouTube (this Alexa had a screen!) to watch lasarbeam (I so don’t understand the mentality of watching other people play games… Or watching other people watch funny videos, I must be getting old!) but bath done I told Alexa to shut up and she did!

Wine with a view

Ahhh peace… Almost!

Outside on the veranda it was lovely and tranquil drinking my wine. That was except for his protests that it was boring – another reminder of how technology has ruined kids these days… they crave that constant stimulation.  I’m well aware he’s no different to most kids his age though in this sense. As dusk descended to the song of birds it was pretty peaceful watching the fish jumping out of the water and I eventually distracted him with chat about friends and school.

You Can’t Beat Board Games!

Born in the 80’s I am a lover of board games… I do wonder how many households still indulge in the pleasure of a Saturday night family board game session? Old fashioned my son may call them but once we actually play he is engrossed. The Game Of Life will forever be a favourite of mine.. I find it engaging all the way round and not never ending like monopoly can be. This was the game of choice for our screen free Saturday evening.

Digital Detox playing board games instead

See this is what I wanted… quality time. Yes he won! But not because I let him… we are both very competitive.

After a lovely sleep I woke really early on account of light flooding in the room but as we went to bed at a decent hour I wasn’t too bothered. Confession… I then started writing this blog post your reading right now! Technically not unplugged completely but whilst my son was snoozing away and I was feeling inspired it was a good opportunity to blog – something I love and don’t have enough time for lately.

Finally Feels Like Spring

Although it’s only March the sun was shining… it was not that warm but I quickly regretted not bringing my yoga mat. Yoga on the private veranda overlooking the lake would have been the perfect start to Sunday! At 9:30 breakfast was served and eating outside for the first time this year made it finally feel like spring (except when I was stressing because the napkins blew in the water!)

Waking up fresh

Checking out mid morning we headed to a surprise go karting session I had booked. I actually realised I had never done it before?! How can this be? Super exciting. I will save the details for another blog post as we had so much fun! It was great to find something we both equally loved… go karting is definitely on the future activity list.

To finish the day we went to the skatepark now I have to confess this would usually be somewhere I take the opportunity to sit off and catch up on whatever stuff I think I’m missing on my phone whilst momentarily glancing at my son with a smile. Not today… I had bought him a new scooter (early birthday present) and he proudly showed off his stunts. Then tried to teach me! We had a real good laugh together.

Outdoor fun instead

Digital Detox Accomplished

My digital detox weekend complete, I was feeling revived by Sunday evening. It really got me thinking about how much I feel harassed by my phone and being socially present. It’s no secret but sometimes you are definitely missing the true magic of a moment through trying to share it with the world. Digitally detoxing has really opened my eyes… moving forward I am definitely going to be more conscious of how much I’m using my phone and when.

Have you ever tried a digital detox? I would love to hear how it went… if not you should definitely try unplugging for a while and connect with the real world.

Rachael 🙂 x

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